Sit Tight
(New Order – True Faith)
Sometimes your friends really surprise you. You start out with great hopes that they know better and that they’ll do what’s best for them. As time goes on and you watch them making the same mistakes over and over again, your faith dwindles and is on the brink. You don’t even bother correcting their errors or giving your opinion anymore. You convince yourself that they’re a lost cause.
Then one day you call them up and see how they’ve been doing and they tell you, "I’m very happy. Possibly the happiest I’ve been in the last 5 years. John and I broke up and I’m seeing someone new." That’s when you realize, it doesn’t matter how lost a person may be, eventually they will find their way. It may not be on your watch, but it will happen.
Why should it be on your watch anyway? It’s their life. Sometimes your own happiness is so dependent on someone else’s happiness it almost feels as though you’re living their life for them but without the control. Like a rollercoaster ride you never intended to get on -- you scream at all the unexpected twists and turns, but in the end, it’s never as bad as it seems.
For all my friends making horrible decisions, I have renewed faith that you’ll eventually make the right ones. Not the right ones for me, but the right ones for you. For the friends that have finally got their ship back on course, congratulations. I always hoped that you would and I was stupid for doubting you.
4 comments:
i definitely have a number of friends who've made wildly stupid decisions. But I'm still waiting to see them find their way because as far as I see they're walking in circles, while others are just standing still.
so what do you do when your happiness is so dependent on someone else's? how do you get off the rollercoaster?
Either your friend finally achieves the happiness you hoped they would, or you learn to accept that even though you don't think what they're doing is best for them, that maybe they know better and they are equipped to deal with things if it doesn't work out.
You don't get off the rollercoaster. You ride it out until the end. Hopefully at the end, though you've puked on yourself several times, you still found the ride more enjoyable than you thought it would be.
Amen! My husband's best friend has made horrible choices and it constantly drives us crazy...we can only hope he'll figure something out and make himself happy.
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